September 10, 2018What's New
Greetings to all of our readers.
My father once referred to life as: this veil of tears. Indeed it has been for us. We are still devastated by the death of our son, Alex Hays, last month. Our deep grieving has sapped the energy needed to put out the weekly newsletter this weekend.
Alexander Monroe Hays passed away on Wednesday, August 8, 2018 in Manhattan while visiting us at his home in Manhattan. He had been joyfully creating new architectural forms on a new graphics laptop, before he headed back to Los Angeles. And then the terrible news from the hospital, cardiac arrest. We tried everything to save him, but could not.
Alex was born at New York Hospital in Manhattan, to the sound of Mozart. That may sound dramatic. Alex really was born to Mozart, because I had brought tapes of my favorite music to the room we shared at New York Hospital. Right after he was born, the first sounds he heard were Mozart's Clarinet Concerto, which he focused on in an instant, listening in rapture. I was amazed to see a new born focus so intently, for so long, without moving or fussing. It was phenomenal. If he was cranky, the classical music I played, refocused his attention. He always listened attentively.
Alex graduated from Columbia Grammar and Prep School in Manhattan.
He worked for the family business in Manhattan, Target Health Inc. In the company's weekly newsletter, ON TARGET, Alex was responsible for the section called, History of Medicine.
He entered New York University with a major in history and ended up at SCI-Arc school of architecture in Los Angeles, CA. He worked at Griffin Enright Architects, a firm in Los Angeles, and was very fond of the owners of that firm. Alex had planned to get his license and return to New York, with a friend and open a small firm. The head of his school has sent condolences, talking about Alex' talent and how so many at SCI-Arc loved him and will miss him.
Alex was a non-stop reader of history, politics and great literature and loved art, theater and music. He was an early musician and played piano, guitar, double bass and the saxophone. At three years old, he played his guitar on the apron of the stage with Willie Nelson's band in Atlantic City, NJ. Willie signed his guitar, out of great respect for this curly haired child's ability to play for 1.5 hours, non-stop.
Alex loved classical, especially Mozart and Chopin, and raw jazz. At fifteen, he formed a jazz band and played in the Village on weekends. He was a great photographer. His favorite opera was, Cosi which he saw recently at the MetOpera.
Alex knew every museum in NYC like second homes. He traveled as far as Africa and as close to home as the Adirondacks which he loved.
Alex Hays was erudite and kind. Everyone who knew him, loved him.
This past Spring, with his girlfriend Samantha, we all went to the MetOpera's, Cosi Fan Tutti, Alex's favorite opera.
The musical life circle was completed when at the funeral service, Adam Harris of Regulatory Affairs at Target Health, sang the gorgeous aria from Cosi, along with the string quartet, musicians from the MetOpera, who also played other music classic favorites of Alex. He was born and passed away to music and especially, Mozart.
And, so life moves in mysterious ways.
The life of Alex Hays is a beautiful star, rising, shining, now exploding, like a super nova. He will be missed by a great many people; but lives on in our hearts forever.
Survivors: his mother, Joyce Hays; stepfather, Dr. Jules Mitchel; father, Dr. James D. Hays: sister, Vanessa C. Hays; stepbrothers, Daniel, Richard and Ben; stepsister Rachel; and many other relatives and friends.
Goodbye beautiful boy of my heart.
For your listening pleasure, here is some of the beautiful music played at services for our son by the string quartet made up of musicians from the MetOpera orchestra:
W.A. Mozart, Pavarotti, Cosi Fan Tutti (sung by tenor Adam Harris at services)
W.A. Mozart (tenor) Don Giovanni (adapted for strings)
W. A. Mozart (adapted for string quartet)
W. A. Mozart
Frederic Chopin (this was adapted for strings, for the service)
J. S. Bach
Levon Minassian (Duduk)
Tears in Heaven, Eric Clapton (sung beautifully by Michael Gruters, one of Alex's cousins, at the funeral services)